The French have a term, “Je suis suelement”. Loosely translated, it means “I’m alone”. Of the French, in particular, and romantic languages, in general; they prefer not to be loosely translated. Like English, there are subtleties and colloquial words that just don’t translate. Most likely to confuse those who don’t speak the language well. But alas, I wander.

I have been in many relationships over the years. I’ve always been one to jump in feet first, give it a hundred percent and then find out how deep the water goes. I’m also convinced that one key element of a great relationship is timing. If each is in a proper place emotionally, and the time is right in their lives, then things usually go well. I’ve also discovered, through many trials and tribulations that I’m more content when I’m NOT in a relationship. I’ve always been happier when I go my own way, on my own time, in my own direction. I’m sure therapists would have a lot to say about this condition but they aren’t me.

Most people thrive with someone else in their life. Many are obsessed with it. It’s probably normal human behavior. Maybe I’m not normal.

Don’t get me wrong. I cherish friendships. I’ve got many life-long ones. It’s of utmost importance to nurture those friendships but at the end of the day…I prefer to be alone with my thoughts.

I don’t apologize for this. It’s who I am and more importantly…I’m content with it.

Companionship is another issue that comes up in these conversations. I put companionship in a similar pigeon’s hole as friendship. Important but not life sustaining…for me. Contentment is sustaining.

Contentment is an interesting stasis. There have been some studies lately that steer our thoughts to understand contentment is more important than happiness. That contentment is a product of happiness, inner resolve and peace. I’m convinced of it.

“And there in”, said The Bard,”Lies the rub.”